Well, this is one of those difficult, somewhat uncomfortable resolutions that I know I need to work on. I very well might be the definition of a complicated woman. Sometimes, I don’t even know why I do the things I do. It sucks…
I don’t handle conflict well. I never have. I think that I don’t care as much about personally being uncomfortable; I don’t like making others uncomfortable. It makes me feel like a cruel person. But, ultimately, talking about issues (or complaining about them) with others, who can’t help the situation, is TOTALLY useless. It’s inefficient, ineffective, and a waste of time. It’s one thing to vent a minor issue, but things that really bother you, you need to go to the source.
I am working away at making progress on this. I try to keep it in my mind, when I am upset about something. And, occasionally, I come to the realization that I am being unreasonable. That can also be a good thing. If I can’t approach an issue with a stable logic, then it’s probably not worth the fight. In either case, I am trying to make a conscious effort to improve this character flaw and be more honest with folks, when I am unhappy.
**Progress & Tidbits**
3/4/13: How Who I Am Affects How I Deal with Conflict
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